In your Queendom are you a QUEEN who settled?

REMEMBER we discussed Queen Vashti & Queen Esther both being queens yet different by comparison.

Are you a queen who settled or are you a QUEEN with a king who models the KING OF KINGS?

One day my beloved says to me, in a 'you should sit down, I'm about to burst your bubble' tone, 'YOU KNOW when I open up your door, bring you something special, or other gestures, it makes women want me?"

ME:  *LAUGHTER*  Which clearly was not the response he thought.  " I'm not worried about you AND I want women & girls to see."

MY BELOVED LOOKED PUZZLED.

I filled him in on this:  I know people are watching. I KNOW WOMEN WATCH, and your actions towards me aren't meant to entice jealousy but for them to realize their worth.  If a door being opened is important to you, dont settle for a man who doesn't.

I've seen women with their children look in AMAZEMENT as he walks around the car to open my door.  THE AMAZEMENT soon turns to a face of 'searching', as one searches their memory of the times their dad has opened the door for their mommy, or has daddy ever opened the door for me.

My hope is that by our example, in our little world of people we encounter or pass by, that our actions are something to model, for yourself and towards one another.

Realize & know your worth queens.

BANDS WILL MAKE HER DANCE

           


       Have you heard the song or seen the video?

             BANDS WILL MAKE HER DANCE

In my LOVE relationship, 'BANDS' is a 

reference to 

WEDDING BANDS!

Yes, my beloved knows the song, he actually sings it from time to time.  But, one day, while he sang, I made my own version:


                *Pointing to my RING FINGER*  I exclaimed, "Bands will make her dance!"

    REMIX:  Bands will make her dance, BANDS BANDS BANDS, will make her dance!


                                  It's our inside joke, I've decided to share with you.

Will you be a woman who will dance for the stack of dollar bills wrapped in a rubberBAND?  Or will you be the woman who honors herself, her worth, and waits for a man who realizes this in her AND shows her respect by presenting her with a BAND, a wedding band?

Wives, once you receive your wedding BAND, don't forget or lose sight of the DANCE:  Dance for your husband.  Don't lose sight of intimacy in your marriage nor laughter!

Is it fair to enjoy sex, engage in the act of sex PRIOR TO MARRIAGE, yet, once married, all of what you've previously done, you don't or won't do?  HONOR YOUR MAN.  Husbands honor your wives.


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You’re a QUEEN, but what type of queen are you?

She’s your QUEEN to be, but…

What type of queen are you getting?)

You’re a QUEEN, but what type?  It’s a subjective, let’s see why.

Who are you most like Queen Vashti or Queen Esther?

Remember the Bible book Esther and the first chapter describing Queen Vashti?

Queen Vashti is a woman I kind of equate to a ‘Real Housewives or Basketball Wives of” type of queen.  The king sent his servant to call for his wife, the queen, yet she’s too busy telling her maidservants and women she’s invited to the feast how big the stones are in her necklace and what far away land it came from.  While she’s telling about crossing many seas to find the perfect textiles for her new dress that was hand-crafted by 25 seamstresses over the past 8 months, her husband is feeling beyond a lack of honor and respect, as a husband, man, and king, when she doesn’t come.  I’m certain he felt embarrassed but moreso hurt.

Queen Esther on the other hand did ALOT of preparing, for the possibility to be chosen as queen. This included beautification treatments: spas and special oils, hair care, hygiene, hair treatments and nails done, possibly DAILY.  Yet in all of this ‘pamper time’, she was reflecting on who she was, what she deeply desired, communing with God.

Esther didn’t seek out the king’s servants or ask officials questions, such as ‘how can I get more of those diamond?’ or ‘what do I need to do to hit the jack pot and set myself up for life?’, she had a different mind frame.  Esther is preparing herself, possibly subjecting herself to things (waxing, digging deep, shedding false beliefs, doubts and fears, talking to God more intimately and feeling his grace & mercy towards her, where we wouldnt have it towards ourselves). 

Esther had a different heart which is evident when she later prayed, intercessed and intervened for her people.  There’s also further evidence of her nature towards her husband when having intimate dinners with him and how she approaches him while he’s conducting business for the day.  

Now, they are both beautiful women, most likely, stunningly gorgeous.  But who wants to be with someone who’s taken it beyond arrogance and who forgets the covenant of marriage— the lack of union, only ONE, her, running the show.  And on the other spectrum, who wants a queen who forgets about her appearance, who isn’t honoring her temple for herself, nor her king, or the true King who created her in His image.

*** What type of QUEEN are you?  What type of QUEEN are you pursuing and deciding on as WIFE?  What type of QUEEN are you teaching your young daughters to become? As a queen, how are you showing LOVE, RESPECT and HONOR to your KING?***

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